WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL

a part of Narcissus lives on in each of one of us. True or False?

 I'm quite hesitant to publish this post at first cause I know Beauty is as sensitive of a topic as Religion. I'm afraid that I might touch a certain idea that might cause a hysteria in the world of social media. Lol! Sorry. I just noticed that the words in the previous sentence kinda rhymes. Totally unintentional. I guess, my frustrations of being a rapper comes out randomly in weird and wrong places. Pardon me. :)

Seriously now, I know I already expressed my annoyance on a pile of drafts saved for sluggish blogging days. That's why I always try to write everything real time. This post might be the first exception cos I've been working on it for 3 days now. It's not that I don't want people to know about my take on beauty and vanity, which actually I really do, but I just want time to clarify my ideas by thinking and researching more about it. Just a heads up, this post contains several opinions of mine that might come out as rude or distasteful. So if you feel/think that beauty is a sensitive topic for you then I would have to ask you to skip reading this post. If you're in for a debate or just plain curious, then please do read on.

I am no Samantha Brick, but I am tall, slim, blonde cute and, so I'm often told, a good-looking woman. ;) Who the hell is Samantha Brick, you ask? Well, you can go ahead and google her. I kid. She's just a lady who went viral overnight for saying that other women envies her for being 'too pretty'. A little too full of herself you think, huh? Apparently, a lot of women thought so too. And she have thrown a pretty huge avalanche of trolls her way in this narcissistic write up which was published on daily mail around the first week of April. As for me, I don't really hate her. In fact, I find her point rather interesting.

Let's take a deeper look in her thoughts to know what's all the fuss is about. Here are 4 major points from her article which I think are either arguable or rather reasonable (basically for me).

• Beautiful women have greater power over less attractive women

Having the opportunity to work in customer service, I've learned the power that beauty possess over people. I've learned the importance of being aesthetically pleasing especially when your job requires social interaction. Let me tell you a story. My first job was with a retail company and they require us to always look our best not only during office hours but even when we're not at work. At first,  I didn't grasp the logic behind this policy. In fact, during my first weeks, I would cry everyday because I don't know how to wear high heels, I don't know how to put make-up on, I don't know how to make small talks with random strangers/customers. Most of all, everyone in the company seemed to be beautiful, charming and so unlike me. I just wanted to quit right away because I basically felt like an odd ball and an ugly duckling there. I'm just glad that I didn't because if I did I would never  know that I can become a swan too. 


I did my best. I studied, trained, practiced, and learned to be more confident. Later on, I started to notice change not only in myself but in the way people treat me as well. I got more compliments from both the same and opposite sex; I started getting free stuff, I never had to stand in a crowded bus or train again because someone always offers me to take their seat; I can finally talk with anyone (celebrities, foreigners, diplomats, etc.) without stuttering; I became more productive at work; and I never felt so good about myself. And so I have finally become a swan: beautiful and powerful. 


The most important thing that I've learned from everything is that, I've always been as beautiful and as capable of doing anything as everyone else. I was not less attractive than them, I was just less confident. 

Beauty is power. Beauty is confidence.

• Women doesn't like to hang out with women who are more attractive than they are

In her article, SB pointed out that her whole life, not one friend have invited her to be a bridesmaid because they're all insecure about her beauty. She also said that her friends get jealous when she gets close to their bfs/husbands and that ladies doesn't want their pictures taken with her because she always overshadow everyone else's beauty. Bitch puhhleeasse...It's not because they think you're too pretty (perhaps you are and they do think so but), it's mainly because you are being a bitch.

I remember a time when I went with one of my bestfriends to an expo of a huge company. We were just wandering around when a lady approached me and asked if she can get a picture of me. She said that she works for a local fashion magazine and she's looking out for attendees whose style can be featured in their magazine. I was flattered and surprised of course. I  immediately asked my friend to be with me in the picture but the lady said that she only wants a solo picture of me, I politely told the lady that I didn't want my picture taken at all if not with my friend. That's because I didn't want to hurt my friend's feelings. My friend then told me that she was cool with it and she began teasing me that I'm prettier than her anyway. I turned down her teasing and immediately assured her that if I have dressed differently then the lady would have asked for both of our pictures. We just laughed that experience off and still hangout together until now.

Regarding her point about her friends getting jealous when she talks to their partners, I sometimes think that some of my friends doesn't want me to meet their partners for the same reason. But every time that happens I immediately shove that thought out of my mind by making the first move and insisting on meeting their partners to get to know them better. I eventually became friends with them as well and we've built a pretty strong and healthy friendship. Perhaps that's all because I always make sure not to do anything that will make them feel threatened of me in anyway. Plus my friends can rest assured seeing that I am not really interested in having a romantic relationship with anyone, especially men, but that's already out of the topic. Let's just talk about that some other time. :)

• Women always measure their looks rather than achievements

I think this one is a little true, don't you think?

• Beautiful women lives a more difficult life because they are hated for no other reason than their lovely looks

I remember when I was in high school and there was this girl whom I really hated. She didn't do anything mean to me but I just refused to be friends with her for no reason other than the fact that I think she's too perfect. She's beautiful, she's popular, charming and every boy in our school seems to have a crush on her. I am definitely jealous of her. Looking back today, I think I was very mean and stupid. So just recently, I tried to make things up by hanging out with her and surprisingly, we became cool. She's really nice so I am really sorry that I judged her before. She's still lovely and charming as ever but now I can say that I don't hate her anymore. We're good friends now.

You see, even though I get compliments on my aesthetics, I refuse to get the 'I'm so pretty' idea into my head. In fact, I often shoo away the nice comments I receive. This is because I'm aware that I'm not perfect and that I have insecurities too. The biggest one being my nose which is often compared to Fiona's (well sometimes to Shrek's). I also have a gap tooth like Spongebob's, and I have very oily skin, plus I'm manic, and the list can go on for days. But inspite all of these, I still believe that I am beautiful.

Angelina Jolie and Dutchess Kate Middleton. Duh. They're beautiful but they don't shove it in our faces because they have what SB lacks: humility. They have insecurities too, you know.

As I have pointed out in my previous post, beauty can be very subjective. A flaw for one can be an asset for another and vice versa. But as much as we hate to admit, somewhere, somehow, there's always someone who's going to find something wrong with you no matter how 'perfectly beautiful' you are. My point is, it's basically not how you look like that matters most, it's how YOU think and feel like. Confidence is beauty but OVERconfidence is ugly.

Here's a fact, everyone has the tendency to be narcissistic and it is not something that's exclusive for women, it exist in men as well. Basically, we're all always wary of how we look because being beautiful can make us feel good about ourselves, right? We just have to be careful not to cross the thin line between healthy-I-am-confident-and-happy-with-the-way-I-look-narcissism and clinical-I-am-so-pretty-therefore-I-am-greater-than-anyone-else-narcissism cause if you do you're gonna fall down and die in the quick sand of self-love just like Narcissus.

I guess everything boils down to the big mistake SB made with what she wrote: her great disregard for other people's feelings and her lack of humility. She might have forgotten that a lot of people will have access to her article and that it is her responsibility to consider various possible reactions first before publicly expressing her opinions. I know it's hard to avoid trolls and not go around trolling in this virtual world but let's not forget that we're still dealing with real people with real feelings. Perhaps we should learn to appreciate and respect each other's unique beauty instead of pointing out what's odd and wrong about each other. When that time finally comes, we can all live in a beautiful world filled with beautiful people. Now kiss. xx

:)) an ice breaker...and a little teaser of what I'm going to rant about next

P.S. If you were able to read this til the end, thank you. And let me tell you a truth, YOU are very beautiful! Way more than Samantha Brick is. :) With that, I would like to dedicate this song for you.

"You don't know you're beautiful. That's what makes you beautiful" <3

I RISE WITH THE GAYEST OF SUNBEAMS

Fretzie Bercede

Raspberry Jam

Jayesslee

Thai actress Baifern Pimchanok from the movie Crazy Little Thing Called Love

and my ultimate girl crush...Angelababy!!!

I've been so stressed these past months that it seems like all hell has decided to break out of my face. I feel like I'm a walking zit-shit-stick It rhymes, yah? I don't know where the hell I got that. It just sprung out of nowhere like the tiny pork in a can of pork and beans. Get it? Nah? All right. Never mind. All right back to the topic. I don't want to start thinking that I look ugly or anything now. I've always thought that it's nice to have imperfections because it makes one unique from everyone else. Your flaws might be an asset for another person. But as old people say, for every rule there's always and ALWAYS an exception. That exception for me is having major breakouts. One or two minor breakout is just fine or even three is still okay. People will just tease you that you're just thinking too much of your crush/boyfriend/fling and that's kind of cute. But when you start to feel like people are looking at your zits- instead of into your eyes- and they seem to be forming constellations out of them in their minds whenever you are talking to them that's when you know you are having major breakouts and that's not cute at all. I'm not really all about beauty and vanity but...but...but why can't I seem to think of any words to put here? Alright, alright, I'll admit it. I am vain (cries pathetically in the corner).

And in desperate times like this when I know that it's already beyond my control, there's only one thing that seem to keep me distracted and discouraged from rushing all hell out of my face by putting every crap I can think of  and lay my hands on in it- and that's staring at beautiful faces. The girls above are some of my all-time girl crushes. Am I weird or what? I know I'm weird so you don't have to answer that. ;)

I would also want to share a very inspiring and funny video but I can't remember the keywords to look it up in youtube. Oh well, maybe next time. Have a good one everyone! :)