THINKING INSIDE THE BOX

Other Worldy photo by Lissy Elle
 

Hello there! It's December 1st and contrary to popular belief (I'm so sorry to burst your bubble but), I am still alive. You might think that I've forgotten about you because I haven't been able to post and drop comments as frequently as before but I honestly haven't stop thinking of something worthy to share. As much as I want to be consistent in posting I am still finding it hard to manage my time now. Unfortunately, I am not like others. I don't write several drafts and stock them up then just randomly pick something out to publish for the days when one doesn't have the will and creativity to come up with something. I always try to write about what I think and feel at the moment and publish them as soon as I finish. Now, I am having second thoughts about this. I'm thinking maybe I should start saving up some writings because I know lazy writing days are going to visit me more often now. What do you think?


Hmmmn... Anyway, I don't know why but I think I'm being picked on (again) by some people because according to them I am so quiet. What can I do? That's who I am. I am just really not a talker. Just because I am not fond of making side comments during discussions and just because I don't feel the need to speak when I am not spoken to doesn't mean that I am not listening or paying attention to the people around me. I am just more of a listener and an observer. I am no longer surprised when people tag me as an "introvert". To lead you more on to the light of my introversion, I think it's wise for me to share this wonderful article which I've found  from one of my friends.  It's something from carlkingdom.com.



TOP TEN MYTHS ABOUT INTROVERTS

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.

This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days. This is specially true for me. I am not a fan of gossips and senseless talks. I don't talk that often but once you've turned my switch on I can talk to you about a lot of things.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite. I am seldom the one who starts a conversation. For that, people assume that I'm a snob but I'm really not. I just don't want to pry on other people's business.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.

Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting. If being real and honest means rudeness then I am rude. ;)

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.

On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in. I love people! I can just sit alone in a coffee shop and not talk all day while observing random passerbys. It's also true that I only have few "real" friends but I can definitely say that they're all true to me as I am to them.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.

Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts. I love to go out and have fun every once in a while but I enjoy most the moments when I'm just at home.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time. I only share my thoughts and feelings to a very few number of people. Most of the time I just keep them to myself.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.

Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy. Very true!

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.

Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them. I very much agree!

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up. When everybody's talking and having their own conversations, I usually just keep my silence because I don't want to add up to the noise their making. I love listening to the inaudible sound of their ramblings though.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ. I can be an extrovert if I want to but this just made me even more proud to be an introvert.

What type of personality do you have? Are you a proud introvert as well? C'mon! Don't be shy. Let me know and I promise you it'll just be a secret between the two of us *wink-wink*.

P.S. I'm loving P.S.s now. Hehe. I was just searching for a song to go with this post when GO ON SAY IT suddenly started playing in my head. I'm amazed by how much the lyrics suits this post. Perfect!

I know I wake up
forgetting which box this is in

a hitchhiker told me I don't talk a lot
made me feel fine
made me quiet